Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Friday, January 18, 2008
Silence...
Silence...
My biggest quality and the worst weakness. I have always tried to eat up my problems, not sharing them with anyone. I have always listened patiently to all people.. always, first listened, and then said only if utterly necessary. One of my characteristic for which i have always been praised for. Still, i believe, i am not even 20% patient of what S is.
And today, because of our silence, we have landed up in a situation where i have limited choices, where i do not know what actions i need to take. Where i cannot predict the outcome.
But now, the time has come, where the silence needs to be broken. And it will be broken.
The only way to secure peace, is to prepare for a war.. and i have to prepare for one....
My biggest quality and the worst weakness. I have always tried to eat up my problems, not sharing them with anyone. I have always listened patiently to all people.. always, first listened, and then said only if utterly necessary. One of my characteristic for which i have always been praised for. Still, i believe, i am not even 20% patient of what S is.
And today, because of our silence, we have landed up in a situation where i have limited choices, where i do not know what actions i need to take. Where i cannot predict the outcome.
But now, the time has come, where the silence needs to be broken. And it will be broken.
The only way to secure peace, is to prepare for a war.. and i have to prepare for one....
Pravs World...Life is not perfect!
Go ahead with life as it is, with the bumps and pitfalls.
However it is, give your best to every moment.
Don't spend your time waiting for the perfect situation,
something which is not very likely to come.
Life is not perfect;
the way you live can make it perfectly wonderful.
However it is, give your best to every moment.
Don't spend your time waiting for the perfect situation,
something which is not very likely to come.
Life is not perfect;
the way you live can make it perfectly wonderful.
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Expectations...
Expectations…
Prospect, outlook, opportunity, hope, anticipation, probability.. These are the words that are suggested as the synonyms of the word ‘expectation’
Do they really? Somehow, I don’t understand words like opportunity in connection with the word ‘expectation’.
I was patient with this situation of handling ‘Expectations’ (at the domestic level). But seemingly, these expectations start going out of hand creating issues between people with whom you are related closely in life.
Fortunately, till date, I have not exceedingly disappointed someone in their expectations from me (at least those people who matter to me!). But since many months I can see this ‘not fulfilling expectations’ jargon brewing in my house. It is difficult for me to understand this situation as a third person.
In today’s industry, there are a lot of expectations from you as an employee because you are being paid a huge amount of salary for the job you do. So it whatever you do should be perfect, neat, clean..
But to top it, the moment you reach home you have another set of expectations.. from parents, children, their spouses, in-laws, friends, relatives.. everyone…
And when these expectations are not fulfilled, there are a huge amount of issues that start piling up. Some said. Some unsaid. And then one day, a small instance is good enough to trigger these past memories and the anger, deep inside, boils out like a volcano burning even the smallest remnants of the relationship you had.
‘People never forget the way you made them feel’
It is true. This volcano of anger that bursts creates a still deeper and wider valley between you and the people whom you call your own!
Sad situation.. And sadder to see it happen with people around you!
This brings me to a basic question. Why do you have an expectation from any other person?
May be because you have done something for him / her and now want that person to pay back?
Well, this is the only reason I can think of. You don’t have expectations from people whom you barely know. You do have expectations from people for whom, in life, you have done something significant!
I’ll be glad to find some alternative answers!
I feel shocked when parents accuse their kids of not fulfilling their expectations and I am enraged when kids say that their parents don’t fulfill their expectations! On top of that, these expectations are unsaid. There is an expectation from either that the other should understand these unsaid expectations and fulfill them!! OKAY!! Now I am starting to get confused!
In the first place, I DO NOT understand why you have to have expectations from anyone? And that too your kids or parents of all people!
I have heard parents say, ‘we have done so much for you, brought you up, educated you, and got you married so you must do as we say!’
I have heard the kids say to their parents, ‘well, whats the big deal if you have done so much for us, it was your duty to!!’
Dear parents, I know you have done so many things for your kids. Fed them, went to the extent of starving yourself so that your kids could relish themselves on the food, sent them to good schools, celebrated their birthdays in a grand way, sat by their bedside when they were not well, got them married to the person of their choice.. you have done everything that was in your extent. Was this just because it was duty to do these things cauz you brought the kid into this world? Was this done with a sense of obligation? I don’t think so. It simply because you love your kid! Then I do not understand why you price tag your love by having them fulfill your expectations in return!
And the kids, you must be damn grateful that your parents did all these things for you. They could have just thrown in you in an orphanage for all they care! But they do care. They have made so many sacrifices for you which you are probably not even aware of. And it was not mandatory for them to have done what they did. So please, be grateful for the fact that you got these kind of parents! and do not show your ungratefulness by saying such things.. for you have to remember, that you will have kids one day and please pray to God, that they dont share your attitude!!
Well, I wish I was allowed to speak these words to the people who I want to tell this to. But I don’t think S will ever allow me to do it!
Anyways, what I feel is that you must not have expectations from anyone. Anyone at all! Even if the person is the world to you. Keeping expectations just has more chances of them to break. That makes you unhappy. That makes the person unhappy from whom you expect something and he/she is not able to fulfill them. It breaks your heart, you get into stupid fights, and inspite of all this, the frustration is all yours!
Well, it seems from the post, that I am getting frustrated now. I actually am.
So this is the most abrupt end of the post. Please tell me what you think of the issue and is this prominent with most of the houses?
Prospect, outlook, opportunity, hope, anticipation, probability.. These are the words that are suggested as the synonyms of the word ‘expectation’
Do they really? Somehow, I don’t understand words like opportunity in connection with the word ‘expectation’.
I was patient with this situation of handling ‘Expectations’ (at the domestic level). But seemingly, these expectations start going out of hand creating issues between people with whom you are related closely in life.
Fortunately, till date, I have not exceedingly disappointed someone in their expectations from me (at least those people who matter to me!). But since many months I can see this ‘not fulfilling expectations’ jargon brewing in my house. It is difficult for me to understand this situation as a third person.
In today’s industry, there are a lot of expectations from you as an employee because you are being paid a huge amount of salary for the job you do. So it whatever you do should be perfect, neat, clean..
But to top it, the moment you reach home you have another set of expectations.. from parents, children, their spouses, in-laws, friends, relatives.. everyone…
And when these expectations are not fulfilled, there are a huge amount of issues that start piling up. Some said. Some unsaid. And then one day, a small instance is good enough to trigger these past memories and the anger, deep inside, boils out like a volcano burning even the smallest remnants of the relationship you had.
‘People never forget the way you made them feel’
It is true. This volcano of anger that bursts creates a still deeper and wider valley between you and the people whom you call your own!
Sad situation.. And sadder to see it happen with people around you!
This brings me to a basic question. Why do you have an expectation from any other person?
May be because you have done something for him / her and now want that person to pay back?
Well, this is the only reason I can think of. You don’t have expectations from people whom you barely know. You do have expectations from people for whom, in life, you have done something significant!
I’ll be glad to find some alternative answers!
I feel shocked when parents accuse their kids of not fulfilling their expectations and I am enraged when kids say that their parents don’t fulfill their expectations! On top of that, these expectations are unsaid. There is an expectation from either that the other should understand these unsaid expectations and fulfill them!! OKAY!! Now I am starting to get confused!
In the first place, I DO NOT understand why you have to have expectations from anyone? And that too your kids or parents of all people!
I have heard parents say, ‘we have done so much for you, brought you up, educated you, and got you married so you must do as we say!’
I have heard the kids say to their parents, ‘well, whats the big deal if you have done so much for us, it was your duty to!!’
Dear parents, I know you have done so many things for your kids. Fed them, went to the extent of starving yourself so that your kids could relish themselves on the food, sent them to good schools, celebrated their birthdays in a grand way, sat by their bedside when they were not well, got them married to the person of their choice.. you have done everything that was in your extent. Was this just because it was duty to do these things cauz you brought the kid into this world? Was this done with a sense of obligation? I don’t think so. It simply because you love your kid! Then I do not understand why you price tag your love by having them fulfill your expectations in return!
And the kids, you must be damn grateful that your parents did all these things for you. They could have just thrown in you in an orphanage for all they care! But they do care. They have made so many sacrifices for you which you are probably not even aware of. And it was not mandatory for them to have done what they did. So please, be grateful for the fact that you got these kind of parents! and do not show your ungratefulness by saying such things.. for you have to remember, that you will have kids one day and please pray to God, that they dont share your attitude!!
Well, I wish I was allowed to speak these words to the people who I want to tell this to. But I don’t think S will ever allow me to do it!
Anyways, what I feel is that you must not have expectations from anyone. Anyone at all! Even if the person is the world to you. Keeping expectations just has more chances of them to break. That makes you unhappy. That makes the person unhappy from whom you expect something and he/she is not able to fulfill them. It breaks your heart, you get into stupid fights, and inspite of all this, the frustration is all yours!
Well, it seems from the post, that I am getting frustrated now. I actually am.
So this is the most abrupt end of the post. Please tell me what you think of the issue and is this prominent with most of the houses?
Monday, January 14, 2008
Silence....
Silence is the best form of communication....
If people do not understand the meaning of your silence, they will never understand the meaning of your words!
If people do not understand the meaning of your silence, they will never understand the meaning of your words!
Pravs World... Blossom Like a Flower..
The realization of happiness happens only after experience of pain.
If we desire to blossom like a flower in the garden of life,
Then we must learn the art of adjusting our life with the thorns!
If we desire to blossom like a flower in the garden of life,
Then we must learn the art of adjusting our life with the thorns!
Friday, January 11, 2008
License to Drive...........!
I got it!! the permanent license to drive a 4-wheeler!
When i went in the morning to the driving school, there were about 50 odd people already there waiting for their names to be called out to sign against their respective names in the register and collect their forms from the person there(which had been already filled up).
Standing there, when the person was calling out names and had finished half of the bunch, i started speculating, 'okay, now my form is not going to be here at all!!'
And that uneasy feeling started settling in my stomach! But, as always, destiny did defeat my speculation and my name was called out.
Then they asked me to attach my proofs to the document for getting my name and address changed on the license. There i went again wondering that i have 110% forgotten some important documents at home! Again, the destiny decided to prove me wrong (why does this hapen with me???).
When we started for the RTO, my great instructor scared us to death saying over and over again that the inspector is very strict and he will fail you if your car stops while in the first / reverse gear! (and that was, rather is, my speciality!) So my instructor did his best to give us the maximum amount of tension he could.
Finally after a long wait of 3 hours at the RTO, i was called to test. I was calm from outside but inside, i was trembling (as usual)!! Fortunately, my car sailed beautifully to the first gear, and then to the second and then the third gear. Now was the time for reverse... well, i had decided not to goof up.. but again, i had to be proved wrong, and my car didnt pick up the reverse gear!! There i was, irritated, more tensed with the 'tch tch' from the inspector. but my insides shouted, 'hurry up!!' and then i did my second reverse take quite well.
Thankfully, the inspector did not mind that one incident and did pass me. But he did fail a girl who was with me for the test. She was a really nice female who had come to pune just a year back. quite friendly and talkative.. i really felt bad for her! Now she has to face one more dreadful thursday at the RTO!
The rest of the day i spent with P, one of my best friends from school.. She is back from abroad, now to permanently settle back in India.. We'd met after a long time and had a lot of things to catch up on.. most importantly her soon to happen marriage! So the evening was spent window shopping with P..
Day ended, and i was exhausted by the time i came back home and slept immediately! But the day was good! Fabulous!
When i went in the morning to the driving school, there were about 50 odd people already there waiting for their names to be called out to sign against their respective names in the register and collect their forms from the person there(which had been already filled up).
Standing there, when the person was calling out names and had finished half of the bunch, i started speculating, 'okay, now my form is not going to be here at all!!'
And that uneasy feeling started settling in my stomach! But, as always, destiny did defeat my speculation and my name was called out.
Then they asked me to attach my proofs to the document for getting my name and address changed on the license. There i went again wondering that i have 110% forgotten some important documents at home! Again, the destiny decided to prove me wrong (why does this hapen with me???).
When we started for the RTO, my great instructor scared us to death saying over and over again that the inspector is very strict and he will fail you if your car stops while in the first / reverse gear! (and that was, rather is, my speciality!) So my instructor did his best to give us the maximum amount of tension he could.
Finally after a long wait of 3 hours at the RTO, i was called to test. I was calm from outside but inside, i was trembling (as usual)!! Fortunately, my car sailed beautifully to the first gear, and then to the second and then the third gear. Now was the time for reverse... well, i had decided not to goof up.. but again, i had to be proved wrong, and my car didnt pick up the reverse gear!! There i was, irritated, more tensed with the 'tch tch' from the inspector. but my insides shouted, 'hurry up!!' and then i did my second reverse take quite well.
Thankfully, the inspector did not mind that one incident and did pass me. But he did fail a girl who was with me for the test. She was a really nice female who had come to pune just a year back. quite friendly and talkative.. i really felt bad for her! Now she has to face one more dreadful thursday at the RTO!
The rest of the day i spent with P, one of my best friends from school.. She is back from abroad, now to permanently settle back in India.. We'd met after a long time and had a lot of things to catch up on.. most importantly her soon to happen marriage! So the evening was spent window shopping with P..
Day ended, and i was exhausted by the time i came back home and slept immediately! But the day was good! Fabulous!
Pravs World....Gods cup of tea!
We are like teabags, whose strength comes out when we're put in hot water.
So, when problems upset you... Just think, you must be God's favorite cup of Tea!
So, when problems upset you... Just think, you must be God's favorite cup of Tea!
Wednesday, January 09, 2008
Pravs World........Love while you live...
Realize things before its too late.
Have lots of friends before you are alone.
Accept things rather than deny them.
Love people before you loose them.
Life comes just once.
Love it while you live it.
Have lots of friends before you are alone.
Accept things rather than deny them.
Love people before you loose them.
Life comes just once.
Love it while you live it.
Monday, January 07, 2008
6 Years...
Its been six years today since me and S have been together. Time flies.. it really does. So many things happened. Right from telling our parents about us, then engagement, the eventful wedding, more eventful life after marriage...
I still remember the day 6 years ago. I dont think anyone would believe, but the proposal happened in the most unromantic way!!
We had become good friends over the six months friendship we had. Simultaneously, we both knew for a long time that this friendship we had will go a step ahead. And on the seventh day of January 2002, S expressed his feelings to me
'over an email!!!' Yes!! over an email.. Well, i was so excited that i even replied back 'by email!!' n then we talked, 'over phone!!'
Well, this might not have been the case with most of the people i suppose, where the two people never actually met on the day when the guy proposed the girl, even though they were seperated by a distance of 15 minutes!!
But still, i am happy cauz we were different in our own way!! :)
Years passed, and at a point we had even decided to break our relation for good! and we had decided to do it not because of any flaws or misunderstandings between us, but because of some external but important factors in our life who had unknowingly created so many issues, that we had to decide on such a disaster!
Disaster, it would have been, if we would have been seperated, if in the end we had not decided to stay together and fight. i cant imagine my life without S.
After marriage too he has been so supportive and understanding.. always taking care that i am not hurt in anyway. Always so enthusiastic, so caring...
And mostly, his trust on me which was not diluted even a bit inspite of a sadist female trying to shake it from its soul foundation...
I am so proud of him. His achievements. His capacity to forgive and forget. His patience.. and his strength to put up with a difficult person like me for 6 long years!
When i look back at these years, there are no regrets at anything what has happened in the past. We both believed and still believe in the sentence 'whatever happens, happens for the best' or rather, 'you have to make the best out of whatever has happened with you!'
And this fact, has helped us fight the most complicated problems which we had to face. And i would not been able to get thru a single one without S!
I still remember the day 6 years ago. I dont think anyone would believe, but the proposal happened in the most unromantic way!!
We had become good friends over the six months friendship we had. Simultaneously, we both knew for a long time that this friendship we had will go a step ahead. And on the seventh day of January 2002, S expressed his feelings to me
'over an email!!!' Yes!! over an email.. Well, i was so excited that i even replied back 'by email!!' n then we talked, 'over phone!!'
Well, this might not have been the case with most of the people i suppose, where the two people never actually met on the day when the guy proposed the girl, even though they were seperated by a distance of 15 minutes!!
But still, i am happy cauz we were different in our own way!! :)
Years passed, and at a point we had even decided to break our relation for good! and we had decided to do it not because of any flaws or misunderstandings between us, but because of some external but important factors in our life who had unknowingly created so many issues, that we had to decide on such a disaster!
Disaster, it would have been, if we would have been seperated, if in the end we had not decided to stay together and fight. i cant imagine my life without S.
After marriage too he has been so supportive and understanding.. always taking care that i am not hurt in anyway. Always so enthusiastic, so caring...
And mostly, his trust on me which was not diluted even a bit inspite of a sadist female trying to shake it from its soul foundation...
I am so proud of him. His achievements. His capacity to forgive and forget. His patience.. and his strength to put up with a difficult person like me for 6 long years!
When i look back at these years, there are no regrets at anything what has happened in the past. We both believed and still believe in the sentence 'whatever happens, happens for the best' or rather, 'you have to make the best out of whatever has happened with you!'
And this fact, has helped us fight the most complicated problems which we had to face. And i would not been able to get thru a single one without S!
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